Thriving in an Imperfect World

 Life is complex. No one is untouched by struggle. We are all likely to go through personal loss, systemic pressures, self-doubt, or the deep sense that something is missing in our lives. However, I still believe that we are all still capable of living a contented, satisfying life. And, I believe it is possible to thrive, even after adversity.

Growing up in a working-class community, I witnessed firsthand how economic struggle, addiction, and trauma tear through people's lives, and I have not been unscathed. Furthermore, as a queer and neurodivergent therapist, I witness the the struggle for acceptance and affirmation of our belonging and capacities to live well. Many of us are brokenhearted from living in ideological and capitalist systems that disconnect us from ourselves, each other, and the nature we are a part of.

Typically, the people who seek therapy with me are LGBTQIA+, neurodivergent, creative, or deep thinkers who want to express and develop themselves and their work and relationships, without being shut down by fear, shame or self-worth. Therapy isn’t about ‘fixing’ you or waving a magic wand to make everything better. It's not even about completely overcoming your social conditioning (that's a lifelong process of change). I believe that good therapy is about equipping you with self-worth, knowledge and understanding to navigate life with more ease. 

I work in a person-centred, anti-oppressive, consent-based framework, meaning that my approach is completely relational and focused on understanding you and assisting you to claim agency over your life. It's a radical approach to creating space for you in a world that perhaps doesn't always do that, and supports you to really grow and strengthen your sense of self, your actual limits and what you are capable of. I offer introductory chats for all new, prospective clients and there's no pressure to commit to therapy. I believe good therapy is often with someone who mirrors something of your own experience of life, so I also support people to find the right therapist for them.


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